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brandi reynolds: joy rebel

Do you know what it’s like to read something and feel like the writer was reading your mind or wrote the piece just for you? That’s what I felt like when I read a recent column written by Wish Studio contributor, Brandi Reynolds. In the column she had great ideas for artists who are just getting started. When I clicked the link to her blog and saw that the full title of her blog was “Joy Rebel Photo: The Sublime Art of Being Authentically You ™,” I thought, “I like this girl already.” After reading a few posts, not only did I like her, but I felt like I knew her. I think you’ll feel the same way. She’s got a way of making you feel cozy and happy and comfortable in your own skin.

As I read Brandi’s blog, I thought wouldn’t it be cool if I could interview her and share her insights with my readers? I’m super excited Brandi agreed to do it! Hooray! I hope you enjoy reading her answers as much as I did!

And the Joy Rebel thing? What is that? Read on to hear an explanation from the Joy Rebel herself. There’s even going to be an entire day dedicated to the joy rebellion next week!

artcetera: When did you know you were an artist?

joy rebel: Like every kid, I knew I was an artist when I was younger. Kids don’t question that they create. It’s as natural to them as breathing. I started losing that confidence about the 5th grade or so…right about the time I started caring what others thought of me and wanting to fit in.

I finally got comfortable calling myself an artist again about three years ago.

artcetera: Do you support yourself with your art? And if so, how and when did you make that transition?

joy rebel: Not completely but I will. I plan to be a completely independent artist-entrepreneur by the time I’m 35 (in about a year and a half)

artcetera: How did you find your voice as an artist? Any recommendations for others who are still searching?

joy rebel: I had to take that risky first step and try to create art. I had to learn to be okay with making mistakes and accept the fact that sometimes, my art was going to suck. And realize that’s not the end of the world. We compare ourselves to the Herb Ritts and Picassos of the world because we don’t see their process, just their end result. When the truth is, they had to stumble and learn and re-learn just like everyone else. Their journeys took years. They just didn’t have to walk the journey in a reality TV world. And they figured out what I have come to know, that our mistakes are our greatest teachers. I have learned more from not liking something I’ve created than I ever have from something that I loved.

I truly believe that each of us have a soul voice. Each soul has something it wants to express and usually, that expression gets buried under layers of every day stuff. And because it’s our soul, it’s our deepest expression; we want it to be beautiful. It’s important and special and a little vulnerable. What I’ve come to realize though is our soul is a lot less sensitive to that kind of stuff than our ego is. Our soul just wants to create. Our soul knows our creative power is endless. Our soul trusts the process. And the more we try and make mistakes, the closer we get to what our soul is really, truly here to express.

Try it all. Make a mess of things. Screw up royally. Throw your stuff in the trash. Decide you hate one medium and try another. That’s what my process was and I feel more comfortable and confident as an artist because of it.

artcetera: What do you find most rewarding and most challenging about living life as an artist?

joy rebel: Discovery is the most rewarding and challenging at the same time. Like pretty much every one I’ve met, discovery means dumpster diving into all the emotional crap I’ve been carrying around for years. Yet, being able to face my fears and let go of old beliefs, to feel myself get lighter and more confident as breathe into a new layer of awareness is incredibly rewarding.

artcetera: Any advice for artists with “day jobs” who would like to make a living as an artist some day?

joy rebel: I am an artist with a day job so I’m right there with you. And I’ll be honest, I’m not one to say just quit your day job and support will magically appear. For those that believe that or have done it and been successful, rock on! I am truly happy for you. However, I have a mortgage to pay and I’m not willing to dump that responsibility solely on my husband while I’m still building this dream. I am totally comfortable with having a plan and working towards that plan while continuing to save and financially support my vision. So my advice would be to do what’s right for you. You may leap completely into the void and land softly or you may choose to do the journey on foot like I am-it’s about what’s right for you.

artcetera: Who or what inspires you (online and off)? What are your favorite blogs?

My husband inspires me on a daily basis. He is so creative and he trusts the universe implicitly. He rarely worries about anything and he’s so giving and funny. He always inspires me to love unconditionally. My life coach, Michele Wahlder is one of the most genuinely joy bright and encouraging people I’ve ever met. I am honored to have her in my life. My spiritual community unity church of dallas. Every time I walk through those doors, I feel peace and I am constantly expanding my understanding of love and joy and inspired to shine my light in the world. Goddess Leonie is someone I’ve known on line for years and her joy is real and infectous. I feel better every time I step into her virtual world. Christine Kane is a performer and life coach who I adore because she is so positive and funny and realistic. I also see so much creativity, growth, fun and inspiration on the blogs of the joy rebel crew. There are so many amazing people there – many whom I’ve read for years and have really grown to enjoy and admire. There is such diversity. People like Tabitha and Lance and Kiki and boho mom come from radically different perspectives, experiences, backgrounds and cultures yet through it all, there is an undercurrent of compassion, growth and empathy. I would encourage anyone to check out my joy rebel blog roll on my blog. And of course, I love meeting new friends like you Darrah!

artcetera: Awww…shucks. Right back at ya! …. I hear you’re a Joy Rebel. What does that mean, how did it come about, and how can I join you in the rebellion?

joy rebel: Being a joy rebel is the sublime art of being authentically you ™. It came about earlier this year (2009) when I came to a crossroads in my creative journey. I thought I knew how I wanted to express yet suddenly, I started questioning everything.

What came about from that time is that I truly felt called to express and share joy. Yet I had these old beliefs that to be joyful meant I must wear flow-y clothes and listen to new age music and be light hearted and happy all the time. What I realized is that true joy is not about being in a good mood all the time. It’s about honoring and celebrating ALL emotions by feeling ALL of them. True joy comes from within. It’s a confidence to be you. It’s knowing you are a unique expression of the divine. So I ‘rebelled’ against my old ideas and decided I could share joy in my way – hence the name.

Since everyone is divine and has their unique expression of joy, everyone already is a joy rebel! However, if you’d like to play along with the joy rebel community, I post weekly missions every Monday on my blog. These are just fun ways to express yourself and get in touch with your joy. I’m not much for formality so there are no obligations ever to do a mission; I trust that each person will join in as they feel called to do so.

Thank you Darrah for providing a space for me to share!

artcetera: Thank YOU, Brandi! It’s been fun getting to learn more about you and your creative path. Thanks for the dose of inspiration.

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To learn more about Brandi, visit her joyful blog, her lovely photography website, or her Etsy page. Wanna get in on the Joy Rebellion? Joy Rebel Day is on July 1!

We’d love to hear from you! Share your questions for the Joy Rebel and let us know if you are planning on celebrating Joy Rebel Day.

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Sherri - June 24, 2009 - 8:01 pm

Hooray! I’m a huge fan of Brandi’s. Lovely to see her in such lovely company as yours!

Lance - June 25, 2009 - 2:09 am

Hi Darrah,
You have a wonderful and amazing person here today in Brandi!

Brandi – it’s great to learn more about your artistic side, and the path that’s brought you to where you are today. I for one, am glad you chose to embrace that artist within you three years ago. You help others to do the same… I love (love love love) what you’re saying about everyone having that "soul voice". I couldn’t agree more (and I’m only recently truly discovering mine). It’s pretty amazing, isn’t it!

Keep changing the world, Ms. Joy Rebel!!

Cricket-Tammy - June 25, 2009 - 4:16 am

I feel the same way about Brandi. I just ran across here blog a couple of weeks ago. Instantly I was enchanted with her honesty with life, and because she is true to herself. In this huge blog world there are so many that are after "numbers" that it is sometimes rare to run across a person such as she.

I was excited to read this interview. I feel as if I know her even better.

Nice to meet you Darrah. This is my first time over to your blog. I can’t wait to take a look around.

brandi - June 25, 2009 - 10:59 am

darrah-thank you again for giving me space to share.

lance, sherri and tammy-thank you so much for stopping by and reading. I am honored to be a part of this community (and the people I know here in blogworld really do feel like community).

darrah - June 26, 2009 - 3:53 am

What I really dig about Brandi is that she encourages people to be themselves and points out that’s there’s no "right" path. I really dig that.

Thanks again, Brandi, for sharing your voice. Clearly, you’ve touched a lot of people.

Lance, Sherri and Tammy – thanks for stopping by! It’s always nice meeting new people. I hope you’ll take a look around and let me know what you think.

Amanda (Persistent Green) - June 29, 2009 - 4:48 am

What a treat–I just discovered the Joy Rebel "army" a week or two ago, and was immediately taken with Brandi’s honesty and openness. Then, I came across the lovely artcetera (fantastic name, by the way) a few days ago. Now, here they both are in one arena! Definitely one of my favorite interviews I’ve read in a long time.

"…each of us have a soul voice. Each soul has something it wants to express and usually, that expression gets buried under layers of every day stuff…" <—amen. This is why I work so hard to turn that "every day stuff" into something beautiful and joyful itself, since it’s what makes up so much of who we are.

Thank you, Darrah, for facilitating this interview, and to Brandi for giving it. There’s much to re-read and ponder here.

brandi - June 30, 2009 - 11:09 am

(((amanda))) thanks for stopping by and reading!

slice of life tuesday: local color

After the hectic pace of the past couple of weeks and confronting the feeling that there’s too much to do and not enough time to do it all, I found myself in bed with a fever and dreadful cold this weekend. I guess my body had a lesson to teach me. Message to body: I hear ya loud and clear!

Between the cold and my recent busy schedule, I didn’t have as much time to get out with my camera last week. But the whole point of Slice of Life Tuesday is that you find one moment to take a step back and snap a couple of photos. It doesn’t have to be every day. Just start with once a week if that’s all you have time for.

On Saturday, I found a moment that I wanted to capture from my life. After hours of nose blowing and perhaps a little whining (I’m kind of a baby when I get sick), my fiance and I sat down at our dining room table and put the finishing touches on our wedding invitations. We stuffed, stamped, and sealed them and put our personal touch on them with a colorful “Celebrate!” postage stamp and a rubber stamped heart on the back of the envelope. I found the invitations on Etsy and loved them right away. We ordered them a few months ago from Jennifer at Pink Lily Press and we couldn’t be happier with them! Not only do they express the colorful, happy vibe we’re going for with our wedding, but it turns out that the designer is local. I always like supporting local artists!

We had a great time working on the invitations. It was a nice escape from the stresses of the week and a chance to spend some quality time together, cracking each other up and reminiscing about “the old days.” (We’ve only been together a year and a half, so the old days ain’t so old.) At one point, Jason turned to me and said, “Did you ever think we’d be sitting here getting ready to send out wedding invitations?” To which I replied, “Yup. I think we’ve seen this day coming since the day we met.”

our colorful wedding invitations. they make me happy.

Now, it’s your turn! Share a slice of your life here or on your blog. Just remember to leave a link. If you’re just joining us, here’s a peek back at the first two installments of Slice of Life Tuesday:

Slice of Life Tuesday (the big launch!)

Slice of Life Tuesday: 60 Seconds of Joy

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Delin - June 23, 2009 - 10:04 pm

Get better soon!

brandi - June 24, 2009 - 2:34 am

"Yup. I think we’ve seen this day coming since the day we met."

*sniff* my jason (yes, mine is named jason too!) and I knew right away also. :-)

so sweet!!

darrah - June 24, 2009 - 5:45 am

Delin: I’m slowly on the mend.

Brandi: Yours is named Jason, too? How lucky are we?!

this is yours

a father’s words to his daughter: “this is yours”This little, squishy globe sits on the window sill in my studio. I’ve had it since I was a teenager and have carried it with me everywhere I’ve moved in my adulthood. It’s one of the first things I try to find when I’m unpacking into a new place. The last time I moved, I even listed it on the outside of the box so it would be easier to find: office supplies, photo album, globe.

I’m not sure exactly when or where or how I acquired this mini-world. I really only have one distinct memory associated with it. I was in high school and was having a hard day. I don’t remember exactly why, but I was in my room crying. I was trying to make a decision, one that was weighing heavily on me. Again, I can’t remember what that decision was. My dad gently tapped on my bedroom door and asked if he could come in. He sat on the edge of the bed where I was curled up and he searched for words to sooth me.

Now, I am not a parent, but I can imagine that these moments are tough on parents. You want to say the exact right thing that will wash away the sadness and make everything okay. My dad has a gift for this.

As the tears rolled down my face, he made a few attempts to let me know that everything was going to work out, but the tears kept flowing. He looked at the bookshelf that took up the wall directly across from my bed and scanned it for answers, for something that would ease my mind. Amidst the books and trinkets and photos of me with friends, he found a little, squishy globe. He picked it up and said, “This is yours.” And I knew exactly what he meant. He handed me the globe as if to say, “whatever you decide is the right decision because the world is yours.”

Over the years, I have found other meanings for “This is yours.” When life’s challenges or questions feel too big, the globe shows me that they might not be as big as they seem at the moment. When I wonder if I can really accomplish my goals and reach for my dreams – when they seem too big – I look at the globe and think, sure I can do it.

To this day, I can’t remember what I was upset about that day in my bedroom. What I do remember are those three little words, “This is yours.”

Happy father’s day to my dad and to all the fathers out there. Always know that your words matter and that your children are listening, even when you think they aren’t.

Share your stories of your father here. Was there something he said to you as a child that still puts a smile on your face, centers you, or keeps you going? Share share share!

 

For other dad-related and dad-inspired posts, check out:

A Father’s Words at Bella Wish

Browsing the Archives at Shutter Sisters

Jorjah-Share at Jorjah-B

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melody is slurping life - June 21, 2009 - 10:38 pm

This is beautiful.

Delin - June 22, 2009 - 1:52 pm

I’ve heard it said that a man is not a man until his father tells him so and he gets that validation. I think it works more generally: that we don’t feel adult until our parents validate that. I remember, some 30+ years ago, when I was first married and living in San Francisco, a telephone conversation with my dad where he told me: "I don’t have to worry about you: you’re strong and you always land on your feet." This was my validation that someone, besides myself, believed in me. I don’t think I could have had a better dad. But your dad, being only 5 years older than me, also helped me through some teen-aged rough spots. So, I have to put him right up there in that category of World’s Best Dads. He does have a gift for saying the right thing and making it all right.

Sarah-Ji - June 22, 2009 - 6:15 pm

What a beautiful story and tribute to your dad. He sounds wonderful. Thanks for sharing!